A Nigerian woman identified as Ebubechukwu has ignited a fierce online conversation about traditional parenting after posting a video blasting what she calls the “hypocrisy” of how young women are raised to interact with the opposite sex.
In her remarks, Ebubechukwu pointed out a cultural paradox she observed growing up in a Nigerian household. “From the ages of birth till twenty-five, it’s like, ‘Don’t know any boy. You shouldn’t know any boy. Don’t hang around, boys,” she explained. “Once you hit 25, [it’s like] ‘I’m praying for your husband.’ Like, I thought I shouldn’t even know what a boy is?”
She argued that this abrupt shift from strict separation to sudden spousal expectation leaves young women socially unprepared for the realities of choosing a life partner. “How should I even know how to talk to boys? How should I even know how to vet them? How should I know how to choose the right one? I don’t know anything now. It’s crazy,” she lamented.
Ebubechukwu clarified that she wasn’t advocating for unsupervised dating but for a more balanced approach. “For the new generation, we need to do better,” she urged parents. “I’m not saying allow your daughters to date. No… I’m saying allow them to mingle. Teach them how to mingle without premarital relations.”
Her comments quickly went viral, striking a chord with many but also drawing significant criticism. While some viewers agreed that the approach was counterproductive, others frowned upon her perspective.
Angry woman sparks debate after calling Nigerian parents 'hypocrites'
Critics argued that such protective parenting is a necessary safeguard in society, designed to protect young women from the risks of unwanted pregnancies and the potential for raising a “fatherless child.”
The debate has since spiralled into a wider discussion about the collision of traditional values and modern realities, questioning whether sheltering young women ultimately helps or hinders them in navigating adulthood and building healthy relationships.
